I always told myself that Mom-ing was the most important and challenging job I've ever had--and it is--but you have to have a superhuman sense of self to ceaselessly hold your head up high and confess that in polite society. It's so undervalued! I admit, I always answered, what do you do? with something like, "tax accountant," or "teacher", or "bookkeeper" followed by, "and a mom" like I'm ashamed of that! It's especially ironic, as I've never worked full-time outside the home since first giving birth to my oldest nearly 25 years ago. Mom-ing always has been my full-time job, and working outside the home has provided us w/ some extra money and perks.
As a strong advocate for the value of Mom-ing, especially encouraging families to raise their own children when it is possible, I cringe when I realize that much of my own idea of success was subconciously connected to a paycheck. I discovered that fault pretty quickly when the community college I taught for began its slow merger with another, and my program I taught in for 12 years was ended.
So now, a year after that ending, a year in which I've struggled to reframe my vision of success, I'm, well to be honest, limping along with the idea of unemployment. Especially since my active Mom-ing days are over, too. Ah! The empty nest!
What is success? For me, success is defined in my life-long motto, "Family First." It is also defined by a more recent motto I've adopted, "You are Enough." My head believes those things, and I'm certain my heart will follow.
My daughters, Maura, Leah, and Sarah